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Reconnecting with Friends

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Connections - Tom Ford

Over the weekend, a high school friend had her birthday party. I’ve been invited to attend since we reconnected on Facebook after my return to Miami 13 years ago.

I am so happy that I went as I got to reconnect with so many people with whom I haven’t seen in YEARS! But what struck me even more was my friend Renee and the realization that if one was lucky to be befriended by her, she would ALWAYS be a True Friend! Before the guests arrived (yes I got there ON TIME – so basically VERY Early) I got to spend time with Renee. And when people started arriving she would check up on me. Asking if I was ok. I saw people from high school and college.

She values her friendships and I’m honored that she considers me a friend.

Building and maintaining relationships are something that people facing entrepreneurs and employees must excel at in order to be successful.

Building a relationship starts with first impressions and building rapport. I remember being a door to door sales person who was asked to join the home owners for dinner 9 days out of 10. Why? Because I wanted to save them money with their telecommunication services. Yes I got paid on commission but people saw that I truly wanted to help them. When I saw that someone was buying the best they could afford, I would tell them so. I got so many phone calls from neighbors, family and friends who wanted me to visit them.

I’ve stated in past entries that I truly LOVED this job! It was my favorite as I got to be outside all day, meet about 1000 people weekly and made a positive difference in their household. I had that position in 2008 and STILL have people approach me in stores, street fairs, and various events to say Hi… most address me by name! I love building relationships!

What I’m not so good at is maintaining them. Being that I’m a single mom and entrepreneur my calender is full of swim meets, school events, networking events, social gatherings, etc. (excuse!) I am usually close to one person at a time for non business reasons. Recently I’ve been working with and training small groups of entrepreneurs for business, but after this event I think I will start making each relationship more personal.

I was listening to a speaker who said that they chose to work with like minded people who “I would look forward to go on vacation with”. That is what I want! When I meet someone I pay attention to their personality, ambition and drive before bringing up what I do. If I don’t get along with a person, they are negative or have the mentality “I am always right”, I choose to walk away. This way I build a strong team of people who are determined to succeed AND have a fun time working together.

Are you tired of what you do or at least open to hearing about this opportunity? Are you hard working and want to enjoy the fruit of your labor? Do you want to know everything you are working for is beneficial to you, your family and your community? Reach out to me. I would like to hear what you are looking for.

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Take a Leap to the Better Bowl

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Take a Leap to the Better Bowl

With yesterday’s post hopefully you stopped to take stock of your life and your feelings. Do you feel fulfilled with what you are doing for work? At the end of the day, do you feel like you made a difference in someone else’s life? Do you wish you had more in life? More time? More money? More freedom?

I chose this picture because it depicts society. The small bowl is overcrowded and limiting while the big bowl has only a few. Wouldn’t you want to switch to the bigger bowl?

A study by the World Institute for Development Economics Research at United Nations University reported that the richest 1% of adults alone owned 40% of global assets in the year 2000, and that the richest 10% of adults accounted for 85% of the world total. With that said Why do people listen to those around them who try to stop them? Getting a good education and finding a job isn’t working anymore. Don’t you think it might be better to do something different?

TAKE CONTROL OF YOUR LIFE

Every time I hear the song Defying Gravity from Wicked the Musical I cry when she states:

I’m through with playing by the rules
Of someone else’s game
Too late for second-guessing
Too late to go back to sleep
It’s time to trust my instincts
Close my eyes: and leap!

I’m through accepting limits
‘Cuz someone says they’re so
Some things I cannot change
But till I try, I’ll never know!

She reached to point to say No I need to do what I want to do and see if it will be better for me. These 2 parts resonate with me. And gives me strength.

Why don’t you take that leap? Is it because a part of you needs proof that you can be great? Why don’t you turn your thoughts around to take the leap because what you are currently doing hasn’t caused something great to happen? Whether the leap is to quit your job, start a network marketing opportunity, perform with a dance class, write a book, talk to that person you like. Regret should only occur when you fail to act. Think of it, if you act and it doesn’t work out you are a step closer to your goal. You know what not to do, or that there is better out there for you.

WHAT IS HOLDING YOU BACK?

Are you a person who needs to wait and see? I think Dr Seuss said it Best in the book Oh the Places You’ll Go:

You can get so confused
that you’ll start in to race
down long wiggled roads at a break-necking pace
and grind on for miles across weirdish wild space,
headed, I fear, toward a most useless place.
The Waiting Place…

…for people just waiting.
Waiting for a train to go
or a bus to come, or a plane to go
or the mail to come, or the rain to go
or the phone to ring, or the snow to snow
or waiting around for a Yes or a No
or waiting for their hair to grow.
Everyone is just waiting.

Waiting for the fish to bite
or waiting for wind to fly a kite
or waiting around for Friday night
or waiting, perhaps, for their Uncle Jake
or a pot to boil, or a Better Break
or a sting of pearls, or a pair of pants
or a wig with curls, or Another Chance.
Everyone is just waiting.

NO!
That’s not for you!

Somehow you’ll escape
all that waiting and staying.
You’ll find the bright places
where Boom Bands are playing.

Dr Seuss at the end of the book says:

And will you succeed?
Yes! You will, indeed!
(98 and 3 / 4 percent guaranteed.)

KID, YOU’LL MOVE MOUNTAINS!

… you’re off to Great Places!
Today is your day!
Your mountain is waiting.
So…get on your way!

Believe in yourself and take action! Jump to the Big Bowl!