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Being vs Feeling Helpless

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Being vs Feeling Helpless

I’m sure you looked at that picture and thought to yourself “That Sucks!” but being a picture there was nothing that you could do about it. If you were to step out of your life and look at it objectively with our thoughts and feelings would you say the same thing?

A few years ago a friend of mine was in a job that she absolutely hated. Her beloved company was bought out and the new company was ridding itself of the employees of the original company.  Her new boss had no idea what needed to be done and didn’t build employee morale. While my friend was at work she was expected to train her boss who was unappreciative and rude. Every time my friend had a bad day she would call and complain to me. And my comment would always be to brush up the resume and start looking. These words went unheeded until she was laid off along with the last 1/4th of the original company. Strangely enough my friend was DEVISTATED! I couldn’t for the life of me understand how she was so upset when EVERY DAY she was upset!? The funny thing is that less that 5 weeks later she had another job… that she liked! Why did she stay?

In my last job my coworker was verbally belittled and blamed for everything that went wrong in the office, including mistakes that were made before she worked at the company. My boss had it out for her and in meeting would let loose a barrage of barbs aimed at my coworker. There were a couple of time when my coworker was shaking from being emotionally overwhelmed! The rest of the office would tell her to start looking for other work as this the boss has it out for her and her response was that she was a single mom with no family to help her. I left the company and a couple months later she was fired. She was written up for 5 year old mistakes (she wasn’t working there at the time), mistakes that I made and corrected, and overlooking some details. In the past couple months she has been unemployed looking for work. Why did she stay?

 

I experienced these two incidents and the question Why did these two hard working, sharp women stay in such negativity? Did they not think they were good enough to find something better? Did they think this was the best that they could get?

Too many people don’t think that they can succeed in attaining their dreams and with that thought they don’t even bother to attempt to try. They think this is probably the best they can have.

My own story… When I first decided to quit my job a part of me said that I wasn’t going to succeed, that I would need a job in a few months. There were so many people who told me that this is crazy and still ask me every time they see me if I found my way and got another job. It doesn’t matter that I have plenty of experience with customer service, training others, communications, interpersonal skills, public speaking and business. It doesn’t matter that I’m working much harder for myself than I was for my last job. The only thing they see is I don’t have the gold level health insurance or paid vacations. It doesn’t matter that I am happier now, am able to be at my son’s school or events when needed, and can set my hours to any time.

Something pushed me to the breaking point and a part of me knew that I am able giving me the courage to leave. Over the past few months I’ve worked through hurdles, reached epiphanies, and spoke with hundreds of people. Over the past couple weeks the seeds that I planted are finally breaking the surface and I’m seeing results. The feelings of helplessness are lifting and I can appreciate that I was never actually helpless to attain my goals!

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Are you answering your question?

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Are you answering your question?

I know I was raised to get a good education, get a good paying job and I will be happy. I found this not to be true.

I got a bachelor in business and a master in IT. Most of the time I had to dumb down my resume to even be considered for a position, then when I got the job I out grew it within months. My mind was different than most of my coworkers. I learned what I had to do, then I would look at how the system worked. My way of thinking is make the system as effective and efficient as possible. This didn’t go over well most of the time. Many supervisors thought I was trying to take their position… furthest thing from my mind. Also when I lost the feeling of accomplishment or saw that they preferred to be redundant and obsolete I had to leave.

I need to feel like I am making a difference in other people’s lives. My favorite position to date was when I went door to door as “acquisitions” and customer service for a telecommunication company. Their new service was becoming available in small pockets of the county. I was the person to introduce customers to the new product and make sure they were satisfied with what they currently had. I loved training my co-workers, meeting people at their homes, and helping them save money after looking over their bills and making them aware of their service and spending. One customer saved over $150 per month with this new program and looking up the number instead of calling 411. Not everyone was open to the new service and I was only yelled at once – by a man who told me to come back.

I was honest and told people when what they currently had was the best they could afford. I got phone calls thanking me by their families for being so honest. I was the face of customer service in the areas that I oversaw. I held this position over 6 years ago and sometimes will run into someone that I had visited. I was impressed that those I ran into remembered my name and truly cared about my well being. Just recollecting the artist at a Arts Festival in South Miami or a woman at Costco brings me to tears knowing that I made such an impact that they remembered me so long after I had visited them at their homes.

I feel that this is the answer to my life questions. How can I best serve my community? How can I truly make a positive difference?