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New Year’s Resolutions

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New Year’s Resolutions

This year has been a world of change for us.

In April Keegan did the swim leg of a triathlon. In May we went to Jamaica for a swim meet with the Flying Fish Swim Club. My son graduated from middle school and started high school. In September Miami Dade College closed its pool to the public meaning we had to leave and no longer swim under the name Flying Fish. He loves his school, his program and swimming for his school.

In February I got bronchitis again. In April at the triathlon I got a severe case of poison oak and left my job. In May I got to go back to Jamaica for the first time in 21 years. I enjoyed seeing friends and family. In June I was able to go to Vegas for Insanity Bootcamp that changed my views of network marketing. The section that resonated with me the most was:

People respond to your campaign, you, THEN your business opportunity.

I first started with Put Health Back in Healthcare, which then expanded to Building Better Communities. I am happy that Market America is so diverse that I’m able to work with various professionals – veterinarians, health professionals, financial advisers, new musical artists, makeup artists, business owners, gym owners and instructors, to name a few – but then I also get to work with entrepreneurs and people who want a change in their lives. I love what I am doing.

With this summary of the year, yesterday I saw the TedTalks of Dr Joel Fuhrman. It reminded me of my New Year’s Resolution for a 85-90% plant based diet. I went to the library and borrowed his book Eat to Live and am now a quarter way through the book which also touches on another resolution to read a book a month. I’m now talking to anyone who will listen to me about what I do and my goals which is another resolution of being a Positive Force in the community.

I love how the experiences of the past couple years have made me able to succeed in changing my life to fulfill these resolutions. I still have a few resolutions to live out: Leading by Example, Helping Others Succeed, Becoming Financially Free, and Traveling the World. And know that the actions I’m doing now will help me reach those in the near future.

Looking back over the year and thinking of your New Year’s Resolutions are you there yet? Or at least much closer to having changed your life from last December? ALL the Best to you and Best Wishes in your endeavors!

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Being vs Feeling Helpless

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Being vs Feeling Helpless

I’m sure you looked at that picture and thought to yourself “That Sucks!” but being a picture there was nothing that you could do about it. If you were to step out of your life and look at it objectively with our thoughts and feelings would you say the same thing?

A few years ago a friend of mine was in a job that she absolutely hated. Her beloved company was bought out and the new company was ridding itself of the employees of the original company.  Her new boss had no idea what needed to be done and didn’t build employee morale. While my friend was at work she was expected to train her boss who was unappreciative and rude. Every time my friend had a bad day she would call and complain to me. And my comment would always be to brush up the resume and start looking. These words went unheeded until she was laid off along with the last 1/4th of the original company. Strangely enough my friend was DEVISTATED! I couldn’t for the life of me understand how she was so upset when EVERY DAY she was upset!? The funny thing is that less that 5 weeks later she had another job… that she liked! Why did she stay?

In my last job my coworker was verbally belittled and blamed for everything that went wrong in the office, including mistakes that were made before she worked at the company. My boss had it out for her and in meeting would let loose a barrage of barbs aimed at my coworker. There were a couple of time when my coworker was shaking from being emotionally overwhelmed! The rest of the office would tell her to start looking for other work as this the boss has it out for her and her response was that she was a single mom with no family to help her. I left the company and a couple months later she was fired. She was written up for 5 year old mistakes (she wasn’t working there at the time), mistakes that I made and corrected, and overlooking some details. In the past couple months she has been unemployed looking for work. Why did she stay?

 

I experienced these two incidents and the question Why did these two hard working, sharp women stay in such negativity? Did they not think they were good enough to find something better? Did they think this was the best that they could get?

Too many people don’t think that they can succeed in attaining their dreams and with that thought they don’t even bother to attempt to try. They think this is probably the best they can have.

My own story… When I first decided to quit my job a part of me said that I wasn’t going to succeed, that I would need a job in a few months. There were so many people who told me that this is crazy and still ask me every time they see me if I found my way and got another job. It doesn’t matter that I have plenty of experience with customer service, training others, communications, interpersonal skills, public speaking and business. It doesn’t matter that I’m working much harder for myself than I was for my last job. The only thing they see is I don’t have the gold level health insurance or paid vacations. It doesn’t matter that I am happier now, am able to be at my son’s school or events when needed, and can set my hours to any time.

Something pushed me to the breaking point and a part of me knew that I am able giving me the courage to leave. Over the past few months I’ve worked through hurdles, reached epiphanies, and spoke with hundreds of people. Over the past couple weeks the seeds that I planted are finally breaking the surface and I’m seeing results. The feelings of helplessness are lifting and I can appreciate that I was never actually helpless to attain my goals!

Be Yourself – Your True Self

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Be Yourself – Your True Self

I love this quote. The world will try to change you into someone else –  have you ever had a dream, but didn’t follow it because you heard “It would be wrong”, “that’s not how the world works”, or “stop being a dreamer”. I’ve seen the looks of “you poor thing, that will never work” or “I don’t want you to get hurt”.

Don’t let them – Be yourself, follow your dreams, Proudly Show Your Brilliance

There is only one you with your strengths, weaknesses, experiences and dreams. There has been no one like you since before the dawn of time and will never be another like you to the end of time. You are truly Amazing and the world is a Better Place because you are in it.

I think the world would be a much better, more interesting place if everyone had the courage to contribute their Brilliance.

I’m watching the movie The Mummy (one of my favorite shows). A scene that always gets me is when she is upset that the Bembridge Scholars had rejected her application. This saddens me as so many people will see themselves as “not enough” and will give up. Could you imagine a world without Dr Seuss? Theodore Geisel was rejected 27 times. How about Judy Bloom or J.K. Rowling? Walt Disney? Oprah? Thomas Edison? Steve Jobs? Bill Gates? Albert Einstein? Steven Spielberg?

Seth Godin stated “Reject the tyranny of being picked: pick yourself” Are you going to let someone stop you? Or are you going to decide to Be Yourself?

Take that Bembridge  Scholars!

Different from the World

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Different from the World

I look at how school teaches my son and his classmates. The kids are taught how to follow directions, sit still and quietly, and to memorize information that they can Google.

Kids come out of school not knowing how to think for themselves into a society that has no jobs for them, but has taught them that this is the only acceptable path to take. Graduates are either unemployed or underemployed, or they can’t find a job in their area of study while they still have student loans to pay.

Shouldn’t we be exposing them to think differently. There are some amazing books:

  • Risky is the New Safe: The Rules Have Changed…     by Randy Gage
  • Linchpin: Are you indispensable?     by Seth Godin
  • Rich Dad, Poor Dad     by Robert T. Kiyosaki
  • Think and Grow Rich    by Napoleon Hill
  • The Richest Man in Babylon     by George S. Clason
  • How to Win Friends and Influence People    by Dale Carnegie
  • Secrets of a Millionaire Mind    by T Harv Eker

Something I’m interested in doing in my son’s school is to start an entrepreneur club. Teaching goal setting, how to break down the goals into small daily steps, useful business skill and personal improvement skills. I also want to empower them to think BIGGER, be confident in themselves and their abilities and have the courage to be different.

If you have a dream, I hope you have the desire and the confidence to fulfill it. Just know you can always contact me to help you on your way.

For My Son – a Very Important Ripple

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For My Son – a Very Important Ripple

When I think of doing anything I think how does it affect my life and how will it help me be a role model for my son

Growing up I remember my mom’s family told me to travel the world, experience all that I can, and do everything I can before I got married. For the longest time I felt that getting married was life ending. I eloped after dating a really nice guy for 2 years. After a year we moved to Los Angeles and I announced my marriage along with the coming birth of my son.

He came after we had decided to wait for 5 years. I thank the Universe every day for such a Fantastic child. I see my beauty, my strength, my dreams, my goals. I got to hear him talk to his friends when he was in the 3rd grade. He told them how his mom works at home and how she is always able to be there. To him this was the norm.

Later that year I took a job as a door to door “sales person”. I loved what I did, but I worked LONG HOURS! Sometimes I would come home to my little person waiting up for me. I remember one night I scolded him for not being asleep. It took me a shower to realize what I had done… I was scolding my child for wanting to see me and spend time with me!!

I love spending time with him, volunteering at his school, supporting him at swim meets, and watching him in orchestra. I love that he volunteers locally, helps those around him, and takes responsibility for what he has to do and accountability for what he has done. I was pleasantly surprised that he has inherited my love for traveling, public speaking, and helping others. I’ve always told him that my job as a mom is to make sure he grows up to become an upstanding citizen of the planet.

I want to Build a Better Community for my son and I’m happy he wants to help me.