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I’m so proud! – Erin and Boy

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Today I got a text from a friend I haven’t spoken or seen in the past 2 years. She was one of the 30 friends whom I had contacted in my last mass text. She told me that she moved from Downtown to Coral Gables and that she is about to publish her book! I found out it was the book she talked to me about a few years ago… as a dream. I’m so happy for and proud of my friend Erin! I wish her All the Best!

Another person contacted me today. It was the Science teacher that my son and I went to Europe with over the summer. He had asked a few weeks ago if my son could play his flute at a Haitian American event. My son also has him for math and science tutoring. The teacher said that the event was this weekend and that sadly he wasn’t able to go due to a death in the family; but the Association has invited us to join them. I’m so proud of my son who is pulling back up his grades and being asked to participate in such an event.

Tonight I got to talk to my son about “being bias”. He is under the misguided notion that if I tell him he is a Good Kid and I’m thankful every day that he is in my life that I’m being biased. Why is it that he thinks that I as his mom can’t compliment him while being truthful?

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with a little help

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This evening I met my cousin’s friend. He is in his first year in college and studying to be an IT guy. After talking for a little I asked him where does he want to go. He said the “correct” answer we were always taught I plan to graduate and get a job doing…. I then asked him if he could do anything what would he be excited about doing. He looked lost for a little and said no one ever asked that so he never thought of it. I told him to think about it and dream BIG. The only way a GPS can get you to a destination is to be programmed as to where one wants to go first then calculating a route to get there. This is the same with one’s life.

The other thing that we talked about was a field that is growing now. Being that he has 4 years to graduate I told him to look at that field and see a secondary level to it. What is a branch of the field and how can one start a company addressing this branch. I think one of the things that school teaches us is how to follow and tries to squelch one’s true Brilliance and creativity.

 

This was written on the night of the 8th. I don’t know why it didn’t post.

What is your “Why”?

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Today was another Fantastic Day. I found 3 people who are interested in certain aspects of my business and want me to contact them. Then I got to spend most of the day at the second day of Conference! I got to reconnect with friends whom I haven’t seen since International Conference in August. Being that Conference is going on by the time I come home and get ready for bed before typing my blog may seem a bit too impersonal. Please just read and get the message and I promise by next weekend you will “see” my happy bubbly self again. I’m just suffering Brain Fry with SO MUCH Info being crammed in my head at Conference.

The reason that I brought all that up is that I won’t be able to go on the last day because my son has his first meet of the season and he needs qualifying times. Someone told me that there was NO reason BIG Enough to miss a day. I have been thinking about that. My son is the reason that I’m with this company. He was the driving force for me learning what I know and specializing in nMx. He also listens to my presentations and talks to people about contacting me for more time and financial freedom. He is my Why!

Today I was talking to a friend and we brought up closings. After telling her our #1 money earner’s close “How soon would you like to be making money with this company?”, but what if the person isn’t motivated by money? I said the best close that I use is “Whose dream are you working towards?” As a marketer my goal is to find out what the person wants or needs, and then give them the solution.

Being that most people have just been lulled by the ins and outs of going to work, coming home, watching tv and going to bed, repeat not many have really stopped to think “What is your why for living?“, “What are you passions?” and “What makes you get up excited in the morning?

are you a boat tied to the dock?

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Today I was listening to one of my Jr Partners. He commented that he wished he was as confident as me when it came to talking to strangers where ever we were. I told him that he should just smile and say hello. If the person was rude who the hell cares as he wasn’t likely to see them again. He then said that in his past, he had an experience that really upset him. “Everyone has had a bad experience somewhere in their past” I said and that he needs to release many of the hurts of his past. Then I asked Could you imagine if you were in a boat tied to the dock, how far do you think you could go? Just like the rope stopping the boat, one’s fears hold them back… just cut the ropes. Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway (Susan Jeffers). Life isn’t going to end, but a person courageous enough to start just needs to keep taking the next step.

My World

Today was a very exciting day! It was the first day of Conference here in Miami in the American Airlines Arena… Home to the Miami Heat! Amazing people from all over the US, Canada, Mexico, Spain, UK, Taiwan, Hong Kong, Singapore, New Zealand and Australia. The talked about Motives Cosmetics, Isotonix, Conquer Entertainment, New Products and Tools. We got to see Loren Ridinger, La La Anthony, the Motives Mavens, Carmelo Anthony, Fat Joe, and Jamie Foxx. AND to make the day over the top were the Wonderful Friends who I’ve met because of this company in my home town!

Helping others

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Within the past 10 years I’ve been working to better myself and help anyone who asks me. I’ve gotten up in the middle of the night to talk to someone who was upset, left work because a friend didn’t know how to change a tire or truly listened to someone who called or texted me disgustingly early in the morning. (I’m a very light sleeper). Zig Zigler said:

You will get everything you want, if you help enough people get what they want.

This is never my intention for doing anything though I do fully appreciate that statement. I help others because I want to and in the long run I benefit from it. When I volunteered at American Red Cross I decided to become an instructor, I didn’t “get paid” monetarily for teaching a class; however, I get to learn the skills of public speaking, the great feeling of knowing that I positively affected people’s lives, and gain the confidence to talk in front of a crowd, I also meet interesting people, have fun experiences and inspiring memories. I got to help them but I believe I got paid SO MUCH more for my actions! I have to truly agree

You will get everything you want, if you help enough people get what they want.

Connections

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This morning I was racking my brain as to what to write here. My goal is to post every morning… still working on that. *grinning*

Today at work I did what I do every once and a while. I sent a text to 30 people in my cell phone who I hadn’t touched base with for over 3 months. After sending that generic text wishing them a Good Morning and asking how their life is, I was bombarded with texts. Throughout the day I caught up with over 20 friends finding out about a new puppy, new boyfriend, a daughter’s 6th birthday party and another’s daughter’s switching schools blossoming because of the move! I heard about snow and nasty weather, flourishing businesses and got questioned about my business.

I also got a few phone calls: a friend telling me how her daughter is in a new swim team, a second friend who told me about her ex-husband’s horrific accident last year and the situation with his family, and from a third friend who has a befriended someone who contacted her through my Facebook.

I also got to go to dinner with a friend I had met last year January and have kept in touch with on LinkedIn and through email. We had a lovely Cuban meal with Great conversation.

This month I have 3 “dates” to visit and spend time with a friend from college , a friend from MeetUp who I haven’t seen since last year, a friend I had met at a seminar 7 years ago and invitations to visit a friend in Seattle and another in St Augustine! I’m happy that I can communicate any time and I’m ecstatic that I have a web of Fantastic connections.

The way so many people use technology (texting, emails and social media) is to basically wrangle up strangers and stay removed from them but be able to say I have over 1500 “friends” or 500 connections. To me this seems so pointless, even when I’m in a forum I enjoy touching and connecting to people. (Someone asked me once how I get so many people to drink Stef kool-aid.) There may be something that I share that helps them or, even better, inspires them. I probably will never know about it which is ok as I’m not sharing for the praise or thanks. I do it because I love feeling that connection with my fellow human.

From forums I’ve made friends who are still close to me. I remember a time where I woke from a terrible nightmare and a dear friend from New Zealand was there to calm me down. He’s been a good friend for over 10 years though we haven’t met. One day soon!

Over the years I’ve joined sites like MeetUp.com to do various activities that I’ve always wanted to try (paddle boarding, outrigger canoeing, sailing,pottery making) and to meet and hopefully befriend Amazing people. I see people who I’ve met and connected with as my chosen family. I am amazed that this time the 30 texts didn’t even get me through Ds… either I’ve met A Lot of people over the past 2 years or I’ve been a little too isolated from my friends. I’m thankful I had the honor and blessing to have met and gotten to know them.

Have a Wonder Filled Week! I’m so excited MA Conference is coming to Miami this week!

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Stef