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Reconnecting with Friends

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Connections - Tom Ford

Over the weekend, a high school friend had her birthday party. I’ve been invited to attend since we reconnected on Facebook after my return to Miami 13 years ago.

I am so happy that I went as I got to reconnect with so many people with whom I haven’t seen in YEARS! But what struck me even more was my friend Renee and the realization that if one was lucky to be befriended by her, she would ALWAYS be a True Friend! Before the guests arrived (yes I got there ON TIME – so basically VERY Early) I got to spend time with Renee. And when people started arriving she would check up on me. Asking if I was ok. I saw people from high school and college.

She values her friendships and I’m honored that she considers me a friend.

Building and maintaining relationships are something that people facing entrepreneurs and employees must excel at in order to be successful.

Building a relationship starts with first impressions and building rapport. I remember being a door to door sales person who was asked to join the home owners for dinner 9 days out of 10. Why? Because I wanted to save them money with their telecommunication services. Yes I got paid on commission but people saw that I truly wanted to help them. When I saw that someone was buying the best they could afford, I would tell them so. I got so many phone calls from neighbors, family and friends who wanted me to visit them.

I’ve stated in past entries that I truly LOVED this job! It was my favorite as I got to be outside all day, meet about 1000 people weekly and made a positive difference in their household. I had that position in 2008 and STILL have people approach me in stores, street fairs, and various events to say Hi… most address me by name! I love building relationships!

What I’m not so good at is maintaining them. Being that I’m a single mom and entrepreneur my calender is full of swim meets, school events, networking events, social gatherings, etc. (excuse!) I am usually close to one person at a time for non business reasons. Recently I’ve been working with and training small groups of entrepreneurs for business, but after this event I think I will start making each relationship more personal.

I was listening to a speaker who said that they chose to work with like minded people who “I would look forward to go on vacation with”. That is what I want! When I meet someone I pay attention to their personality, ambition and drive before bringing up what I do. If I don’t get along with a person, they are negative or have the mentality “I am always right”, I choose to walk away. This way I build a strong team of people who are determined to succeed AND have a fun time working together.

Are you tired of what you do or at least open to hearing about this opportunity? Are you hard working and want to enjoy the fruit of your labor? Do you want to know everything you are working for is beneficial to you, your family and your community? Reach out to me. I would like to hear what you are looking for.

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Being Open to Receive

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Acceptance - McGill

Have you ever stopped to think about your life and where you are? This
morning while running errands a part of me was meditating. I don’t meditate the way it is described on the internet. I just quiet a part of my mind and talk to the “still small voice” in my head – some people call this prayer.

While I was talking to the voice I remembered I asked why is it I’m not doing as well as I know I can? Is someone (including me) holding me back? Being that I was sent this opportunity, why is it I haven’t gotten anywhere yet? I quieted myself and listened.

The answer was something that I didn’t expect. I saw in my mind a glass turned down like it was drying after being washed. I then saw a house where all the windows and doors were closed and locked tight. The voice told me that I was not open to receiving.

I do believe that energy goes to what one focuses on. However, for the past 2 years I’ve been focusing on growing my company the way the average person is taught to grow a network marketing business. I am not fond of calling people who are in my warm or hot market as all of them don’t believe in direct sales or network marketing even though many are business owners and have the entrepreneurial spirit. And although I’m very comfortable talking to strangers and got appointments to “show the plan” I wasn’t very good at “sealing the deal.”

Over the past 6 months the focus was more concentrated on the NPO (Non Profit Organization) program of this company. As I said in past entries I love working, and I love challenges; however I don’t do well without purpose. Changing my perspective has brought many influential people into my life and made it easy for me to get in front of groups to talk about how I can help them and their cause in fundraising. A few months ago I was able to sponsor a Fantastic non-profit the Greater Miami Youth Symphony. Sadly, I haven’t been able to connect with the contact person as much as I need to as he has had a VERY FULL schedule though the more I “wait” the more I am doing to set the foundation for their campaign.

In the last 2 weeks I’ve been contacted by 5 non-profits. I am very upfront that I’m utilizing a network marketing company to leverage the community and further the community’s growth. I had a woman to completely flip out! She was so excited! She fully understood the value and leverage of network marketing. Since talking with her I’ve been pushed up the ladder of this non-profit and have a meeting with the president of the county next week. I’m so grateful!

How my vision ended was with me struggling but succeeding in turning the glass upright and opening the doors and windows of this house. For the glass it was like my hands were tied behind my back, and for the windows and doors I was walking through the house but couldn’t open anything.

 

Update – I wrote this last Wednesday and didn’t publish. Since then the windows have opened, though the doors are still locked, AND the glass is now upright starting to collect water.

Follow Your Passion

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Follow Your Passion

Do you remember what your passion is? Are you happily living your passion?

When I ask random people one of my favorite questions “If you had a Billion dollars, what would you be doing?” 8 out of 10 will tell me: quit my job, pay off all my bills, buy [whatever toys], and take a vacation. When I dig a little deeper I hear: I don’t know or I never really thought of that.

Why are dreams stamped out by others?

When I told my dad that I wanted to be a parapsychologist and get my degree at Duke University, he told me parapsychology is a rich man’s hobby.

When I wanted to be a priest (I went to Catholic school) the head nun told me that only a man can become a priest. As a woman I can become a nun. What is up with that?

Why do we allow others to stamp out our dreams?

It wasn’t until this year that I decided that I serve the world better when I do what makes me happy. I enjoy meeting people, talking to people, hearing about their dreams and goals, and helping them attain them. Not only do I get a sense of accomplishment, I am a positive role model for my son and his friends.

My son has always been taught that he can accomplish anything he set his mind to as long as he decides every day that that is what he wants to do and is working towards the goal. When it comes to swim practice I don’t have to force him as he is the one who will be upset with the results of his next meet. I have always taught him about accountability and responsibility. That he is the creator of his life and through his decisions makes his own path.

Sometimes the push that others give, put us on a better road that the original one

I got my bachelor in Business (my 10th declared major – my parents just wanted me to finish “with PE if needed”) and then got a master in IT. I must admit that I truly feel in my element when I restructure a business that has grown too fast, make a computer system scalable, and teach coworkers professional skills.  There is so much more that I have in my sights and decide every day to move towards.

Maybe dreams ARE just goals with no deadline… I can still become a parapsychologist; however, I don’t want to be a priest any more. If it wasn’t for some of my “dream stealers” I wouldn’t have my big dreams now or love what I do.

 

Are you answering your question?

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Are you answering your question?

I know I was raised to get a good education, get a good paying job and I will be happy. I found this not to be true.

I got a bachelor in business and a master in IT. Most of the time I had to dumb down my resume to even be considered for a position, then when I got the job I out grew it within months. My mind was different than most of my coworkers. I learned what I had to do, then I would look at how the system worked. My way of thinking is make the system as effective and efficient as possible. This didn’t go over well most of the time. Many supervisors thought I was trying to take their position… furthest thing from my mind. Also when I lost the feeling of accomplishment or saw that they preferred to be redundant and obsolete I had to leave.

I need to feel like I am making a difference in other people’s lives. My favorite position to date was when I went door to door as “acquisitions” and customer service for a telecommunication company. Their new service was becoming available in small pockets of the county. I was the person to introduce customers to the new product and make sure they were satisfied with what they currently had. I loved training my co-workers, meeting people at their homes, and helping them save money after looking over their bills and making them aware of their service and spending. One customer saved over $150 per month with this new program and looking up the number instead of calling 411. Not everyone was open to the new service and I was only yelled at once – by a man who told me to come back.

I was honest and told people when what they currently had was the best they could afford. I got phone calls thanking me by their families for being so honest. I was the face of customer service in the areas that I oversaw. I held this position over 6 years ago and sometimes will run into someone that I had visited. I was impressed that those I ran into remembered my name and truly cared about my well being. Just recollecting the artist at a Arts Festival in South Miami or a woman at Costco brings me to tears knowing that I made such an impact that they remembered me so long after I had visited them at their homes.

I feel that this is the answer to my life questions. How can I best serve my community? How can I truly make a positive difference?